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the in-between days redux

July 7, 2016

The time and space in between actions, when used to ruminate, is fertile territory for birthing possibilities to be acted upon. Without the in-between days novel thinking, creativity, hypothesis generation, etc. cannot exist, only action upon action i.e., hyperactivity.

Residing in the conflict that may arise during the in-between days, allowing for the dueling possibilities, helps jump-start the ego out of stasis. An individual exploring this territory must be at once courageous and humble because the quest takes place where the “doing” self and the “being” self intersect.

What does it feel like to do our lives and be our lives at once? When we achieve this congruency will we enjoy it for life?

What of the individual who masters the Do-Be-Do-Be-Do dance? The relentless and restless explorer? What if the discomfort of the quest, the insecurity and angst of the in-between days, and the potential of repeated failures do not scare her, but instead entices?

The in-between days become a source of comfort–a reminder that she is thriving and in motion … for life.

8- Magic Carpet-Pacific Grove

for the sake of clarity, ego defined: “The part of the mind that mediates between the conscious and the unconscious and is responsible for reality testing and a sense of personal identity.”

[Originally posted 6.10.11 during another epoch of in-between days.]


dress code bias in higher ed

May 28, 2016

Higher Ed “institutional culture” needs to take note and Re the F Lax and understand the relationship between personal comfort and productivity, desire and presence when serving students is fluid. Nothing is equal except openness to individuals doing their good work. Whether in jeans and boots, suits and loafers, miniskirt and sneakers, a great educator gets it done. Dress presentation of self in the workplace is one type of diversity. And, students don’t care! Seriously.

Focus should be on bringing our most well self to work.

Superficiality!!! Important. Not important. Important. You don’t get to decide no matter your class or status in the Institution. Because the Institution is Ours.

The freaks, queers, misfits, weirdos, nerds, goths, punks, the Goonies—the NOT YOUs. Colleges, Universities, Schools, Preps…the dot dot dots. It’s our time…

It’s our time.

When we feel put together, presenting our various and wonderful identies, that we may demonstrate outwardly through dress… Then we are ready to meet students where they are and to listen how they want to get to their next place.

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Who’s rules?

March 23, 2016

Staff and faculty fronting travel expenses to a conference, particularly national-level conferences where we proudly present good work and research?

That’s a bogus rule.

I’m grateful that my College works with me to get a travel advance because otherwise I wouldn’t be able to share our work or learn from others how to tune-up our practice.

The assumption that staff and faculty have a line of credit or cash on hand to pay in advance is assumptive, and clasist, and more deeply boxes more than a few out from participating in conferences and, arguably from (doing) and sharing the outcomes of the good, great work.

This rule is bogus because the folks working with our students, watching our students, learning about them and using what they learned to impact student success ((contentment and achieving their intended goals)) are SYSTEMICALLY not invited to the party.

Not cool.

Assessment in Student Affairs

February 29, 2016

Updating the presentation below and prepping to share as one of ten invited sessions of NASPA’s Assessment Knowledge Community at the annual conference in a few weeks.

We are thrilled to share this important story–of how we are (slowly and intentionally) building a culture of assessment of co-curricular learning at our college.

We’re All Educators Here

February 29, 2016

Presentation given on March 13, 2015 at the Northeastern and Northwestern Illinois Association of Collegiate Registrars & Admissions Officers workshop, “Building Relationships for Student Success” held at the picturesque Wheaton College.

The theme of the presentation focused on recognizing the way(s) Student Services Personnel serve as educators. It also problematized the use of war and medical discourse e.g., front line, triage, and metaphors when discussing the work of student affairs professionals.

Miss Autumn (rewind, play)

September 30, 2015
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Miss Autumn

Red puckered lips

plant a single kiss on his stubbly chin.

The chosen one.

Elected from a crowd of thousands.

She puts their brilliant love on display.

Limbs dance exotic numbers,

painted up in glamorous shades,

gold, tangerine, rust.

A lady’s temporal passions

divesting him with from tip to toe.

Soon all the poplar gents will know,

she’s the reigning Queen.

How many social media horcruxes do you have?

August 31, 2015

Watched a talk by @paulgordonbrown who makes reference to various metaphors students used to describe their digital selves. Horcruxes were mentioned. That’s pretty neat! The talk was part of the 2015 NASPA Conference. See it via YT:


My brother Alan aka @cogdog recently blogged “The Vague Line” wherein he problematized what he (myself, and others I’m sure) believe to be a false dichotomy between the “reality” of online and offline friendships.

Alan also succinctly took on the issue of his own on and offline identity. He wrote

… I am ready to drive a stake into the notions of “online” vs “offline” states of being; such differences don’t exist for me anymore- I am one Alan, not some frankenstein sewed together personality, and I float fluidly on the bits and atom states of the world.

The line is so vague, for me it is gone.

I agree fully with brother Alan. I have always felt this way. I am one GNA.

Sometimes I get a little pinch or even burnt for being audacious, critical, or just plain stupid. Most of the time my authenticity is…

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